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Communication is important. Mutual generosity is important. Men’s inner emotional lives are important. Women’s sexual boundaries are important. And vice versa on all counts, of course. But when talking about sex, female trauma is not subordinate to male frustration. Men not “getting” enough sex from their chilly wives (as though wives couldn’t possibly want sex, or be justified in not wanting it) has been our oversimplified narrative for generations. Prioritizing men’s sexual issues over women’s is not a revolutionary, maverick stance—it is the status quo dressed up as progressive pablum. And exploiting one couple’s very specific emotional trauma and dysfunction in order to support sweeping, regressive generalizations about the sexual function of entire genders is utterly fucked up.
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How Not to Talk About Sex in Relationships

Sometimes, Jezebel, sometimes you stick that goddamned landing so very hard.

Once a boring educational channel where you could watch a documentary on the spotted owl or get tips for cooking the perfect soufflé, TLC is now the go-to place for gawking. Breaking Amish appears alongside 19 Kids and Counting about the fertile Duggar family; Abby and Brittany, which follows a set of conjoined twins as they navigate college life; Sister Wives, which may instigate the formation of a Mormon Anti-Defamation League; and the self-explanatory freakshows: My Strange Addiction, My Crazy Obsession, and Strange Sex. Breaking Amish is a hybrid of the ethnic minstrel show—along the lines of Jersey Shore or Shahs of Sunset, where a culture is reduced to its caricature parts—and The Real World, where good looking twentysomethings live together in a new city, full of possibilities.
I know in your mind you can think of times when America was attacked. One is December 7th, that’s Pearl Harbor day. The other is September 11th, and that’s the day of the terrorist attack. I want you to remember August the 1st, 2012, the attack on our religious freedom. That is a day that will live in infamy, along with those other dates.
[Oprah] looked at the food and then made her best statement of the entire episode – “So I hear some people in India STILL eat with their hands”. I don’t know what people in America are eating their hot dogs, pizzas and tacos with but perhaps Oprah’s home has evolved cutlery for all that. Then she told her viewers that ALL women in India live with their mothers-in-law and extended family.
- 'Myopic, unaware, ignorant and gauche': @firstpostin on Oprah’s magical mystery tour of India

You still eat with your hands? Oprah’s magical mystery tour of India | Firstpost

marliesdekkersofficial:

rararamyeon:

randomlyrelevant:

Um… this … seems really off. Maybe I’m wrong? But .. >.>

Racist as hell
:|

Hi, this campaign picture is from the swimwear 2011 Gypset collection. The term Gypset (gypsy + jet-set) was invented by Condé Nast journalist Julia Chaplin to describe a new emerging group of jet-set bohemians and their languid lifestyle. Eco warrior (this picture) was inspired by the actions of greenpeace and other eco-activists.

'Gypsy + jet set?' 'Jet set bohemians and their languid lifestyle'? Really? Really?

marliesdekkersofficial:

rararamyeon:

randomlyrelevant:

Um… this … seems really off. Maybe I’m wrong? But .. >.>

Racist as hell

:|

Hi, this campaign picture is from the swimwear 2011 Gypset collection. The term Gypset (gypsy + jet-set) was invented by Condé Nast journalist Julia Chaplin to describe a new emerging group of jet-set bohemians and their languid lifestyle. Eco warrior (this picture) was inspired by the actions of greenpeace and other eco-activists.

'Gypsy + jet set?' 'Jet set bohemians and their languid lifestyle'? Really? Really?

dynamicafrica:

Paper ‘sorry’ over Balotelli cartoon
Top Italian daily newspaper Gazzetta dello Sport has apologized for printing a cartoon portraying black Italy striker Mario Balotelli as King Kong.
Media reports said Balotelli’s agent Mino Raiola had reacted with fury at the depiction, which comes after the 21-year-old has battled racism in his homeland and abroad for years.
The cartoon of the Manchester City forward on top of London’s Big Ben swatting away footballs was meant to be humorous and positive, showing the striker as a giant who had conquered England.
However, in the wake of Italy’s Euro 2012 quarterfinal win over England and ahead of their semifinal with Germany on Thursday, the cartoon has received complaints from readers.
“We can honestly say it is not one of the best efforts by our great cartoonist,” Gazzetta said.
“If someone found it offensive we are sorry.
“This newspaper has always fought against racism in stadiums and denounced monkey noises aimed at Balotelli.”
Neither Balotteli nor Italy were immediately available to comment.
The cartoon was printed on Sunday and at first went largely unnoticed but has now become a hot topic across the internet.
Balotelli, born in Italy and of Ghanaian descent, was racially abused by Juventus fans during his time with Inter Milan and the Turin club was forced by Serie A to play a match behind closed doors.
However, racism campaigners in Italy have long believed not enough was done to protect him in a country not as used to immigration as other major European nations like Britain and France.
At Euro 2012 Balotelli was subjected to racist abuse by Croatia fans during a match on June 14 and the Croatian FA was fined $100,000 by European governing body UEFA.
The size of the fine was criticized by the Football Against Racism in Europe (FARE) network, who told Reuters there was public concern that Denmark’s Nicklas Bendtner was fined $25,000 more for exposing an illegal advert on his underpants.
Spain have also been charged over the racist behavior of fans.
Before the tournament Balotelli said he would “kill” anyone who threw a banana at him in the street and indicated he would walk off the pitch if he heard racist chanting.
Balotelli and the Italy camp did not hear the abuse in the Croatia or Spain match.

Emphasis, rage and despair mine.

dynamicafrica:

Paper ‘sorry’ over Balotelli cartoon

Top Italian daily newspaper Gazzetta dello Sport has apologized for printing a cartoon portraying black Italy striker Mario Balotelli as King Kong.

Media reports said Balotelli’s agent Mino Raiola had reacted with fury at the depiction, which comes after the 21-year-old has battled racism in his homeland and abroad for years.

The cartoon of the Manchester City forward on top of London’s Big Ben swatting away footballs was meant to be humorous and positive, showing the striker as a giant who had conquered England.

However, in the wake of Italy’s Euro 2012 quarterfinal win over England and ahead of their semifinal with Germany on Thursday, the cartoon has received complaints from readers.

“We can honestly say it is not one of the best efforts by our great cartoonist,” Gazzetta said.

“If someone found it offensive we are sorry.

“This newspaper has always fought against racism in stadiums and denounced monkey noises aimed at Balotelli.”

Neither Balotteli nor Italy were immediately available to comment.

The cartoon was printed on Sunday and at first went largely unnoticed but has now become a hot topic across the internet.

Balotelli, born in Italy and of Ghanaian descent, was racially abused by Juventus fans during his time with Inter Milan and the Turin club was forced by Serie A to play a match behind closed doors.

However, racism campaigners in Italy have long believed not enough was done to protect him in a country not as used to immigration as other major European nations like Britain and France.

At Euro 2012 Balotelli was subjected to racist abuse by Croatia fans during a match on June 14 and the Croatian FA was fined $100,000 by European governing body UEFA.

The size of the fine was criticized by the Football Against Racism in Europe (FARE) network, who told Reuters there was public concern that Denmark’s Nicklas Bendtner was fined $25,000 more for exposing an illegal advert on his underpants.

Spain have also been charged over the racist behavior of fans.

Before the tournament Balotelli said he would “kill” anyone who threw a banana at him in the street and indicated he would walk off the pitch if he heard racist chanting.

Balotelli and the Italy camp did not hear the abuse in the Croatia or Spain match.

Emphasis, rage and despair mine.

Looks like Hampton parks changed the billing for their “hey, you wanna be a slave for a day? We’ve got hoes and scythes and everything!”:

"Walk a Mile, a Minute in the Footsteps of the Enslaved on the Hampton Plantation"

Park Ranger Angela Roberts-Burton will be in period clothing telling tales of the enslaved who labored here. Experience agricultural labor that enslaved people may have performed at Hampton.  Work in the fields with actual hoes and scythes.  Carry buckets of water with a yoke on your shoulders.

Still completely missing the point.

Looks like Hampton parks changed the billing for their “hey, you wanna be a slave for a day? We’ve got hoes and scythes and everything!”:

"Walk a Mile, a Minute in the Footsteps of the Enslaved on the Hampton Plantation" Park Ranger Angela Roberts-Burton will be in period clothing telling tales of the enslaved who labored here. Experience agricultural labor that enslaved people may have performed at Hampton. Work in the fields with actual hoes and scythes. Carry buckets of water with a yoke on your shoulders.
Still completely missing the point.