"Communication is important. Mutual generosity is important. Men’s inner emotional lives are important. Women’s sexual boundaries are important. And vice versa on all counts, of course. But when talking about sex, female trauma is not subordinate to male frustration. Men not “getting” enough sex from their chilly wives (as though wives couldn’t possibly want sex, or be justified in not wanting it) has been our oversimplified narrative for generations. Prioritizing men’s sexual issues over women’s is not a revolutionary, maverick stance—it is the status quo dressed up as progressive pablum. And exploiting one couple’s very specific emotional trauma and dysfunction in order to support sweeping, regressive generalizations about the sexual function of entire genders is utterly fucked up."
How Not to Talk About Sex in Relationships
Sometimes, Jezebel, sometimes you stick that goddamned landing so very hard.
"it is still, apparently, impossible to be a woman and put forth a measured opinion about one of your own without it being twisted into some kind of screed-ish, unsisterly attack."
Go Hadley Freeman, go.
#journalism
#women
#media
#gender
#Feminism
#Hilary Mantel
"Secondly, let’s assume for a moment that it’s true that women aren’t as assertive as men. Let’s assume that there’s some sort of biological imperative that causes women to focus more on doing good work rather than jockeying for attention and respect from their peers. Why is the conclusion, then, that *women* should change to gain equality?"
#women
#power
#gender
#Harvard Business Review
#Feminism
![This is the republic in the age of the Internet, an ersatz exchange between different types of power: political power (Paul Ryan himself); creative (University of Wisconsin grad student Danielle Henderson, who first matched an image of Ryan Gosling to the algorithm “Hey girl, [pro-feminist comment]”); what we might call creatively distributional power (the thousands who made all sorts of other Ryan Gosling jokes); and the physically distributional (the pilot today who strapped the banner to his or her plane and took off into the air, to fly above Paul Ryan himself).
(via Banner Above Paul Ryan-Led Event: ‘Hey Girl, Choose Me, Lose Choice—P. Ryan’ - Technology - The Atlantic)](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m8rm47UwGn1r3elr6o1_250.jpg)
This is the republic in the age of the Internet, an ersatz exchange between different types of power: political power (Paul Ryan himself); creative (University of Wisconsin grad student Danielle Henderson, who first matched an image of Ryan Gosling to the algorithm “Hey girl, [pro-feminist comment]”); what we might call creatively distributional power (the thousands who made all sorts of other Ryan Gosling jokes); and the physically distributional (the pilot today who strapped the banner to his or her plane and took off into the air, to fly above Paul Ryan himself).
"When a film does focus on someone in a subordinate group, it gets little attention unless, like The Color Purple (1985), it has a powerful white heterosexual male such as Steven Spielberg behind it. Anything less than that - no matter how good it is - has little chance of drawing much attention, much less winning an Academy Award. Even The Color Purple, which was nominated for eleven Academy Awards, didn’t win a single one, losing to Out of Africa.
The handful of films that do focus on people in subordinate groups are likely to be tagged (and devalued) as ‘women’s films’ (‘chick flicks’) or ‘Black films’ or ‘gay films’ or ‘lesbian films’, even though all the rest ar never called ‘men’s films’ or ‘white films’ or ‘heterosexual films’. In a society identified with dominant groups, such films are supposedly about everyone, or at least everyone who counts."
The handful of films that do focus on people in subordinate groups are likely to be tagged (and devalued) as ‘women’s films’ (‘chick flicks’) or ‘Black films’ or ‘gay films’ or ‘lesbian films’, even though all the rest ar never called ‘men’s films’ or ‘white films’ or ‘heterosexual films’. In a society identified with dominant groups, such films are supposedly about everyone, or at least everyone who counts."
Allan G. Johnson (via wretchedoftheearth)
#Truth
#Power
#Privilege
#Sexism
#Feminism
#Sexuality
(via queennubian)
‘to hear the Cosmo missionaries tell it, they’re promoting feminism with every issue. “Indonesia is the largest Muslim country in the world,” Fira Basuki Baskoro, the editor of Cosmo Indonesia, said over a lunch of salad and paella. “When Cosmo came to Indonesia, it changed the way the Indonesian woman thinks. Before Cosmo, it was taboo for women to talk about sex openly.”’
"I know in your mind you can think of times when America was attacked. One is December 7th, that’s Pearl Harbor day. The other is September 11th, and that’s the day of the terrorist attack. I want you to remember August the 1st, 2012, the attack on our religious freedom. That is a day that will live in infamy, along with those other dates."
Congressman Mike Kelly, on why mandatory coverage of birth control is similar to tragedies that killed thousands of Americans. (via theatlantic)
#Politics
#Birth control
#Health care
#News
#WTF
#This is why I'm a misanthropist
#women
#rights
#feminism
(via theatlantic)
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#family
#culture
#gender
#society
#Sweden
#Feminism
“Our company makes no difference between mothers or fathers taking parental leave; it’s all parental leave to us,” says Jeanette Skijle, H&Ms human resources chief. She adds that H&M sees parental leave-taking as an opportunity for its employees to try out different jobs and develop new skills. She noted the manager at H&M’s store in Kalmar, located in southern Sweden, is on six months paternity leave.
“The fathers taking leave are actually more worried than we are (and) wonder how we’ll cope in their absence,” she says, adding each H&M employee has a person appointed to take on his job if he goes on parental leave. “People think they’re irreplaceable, but frankly, nobody is irreplaceable.”
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One day, psychologists will write about the two stages of the female development: the day she realises she’ll never marry her father and the day she realises Aaron Sorkin is a misogynistic, egotistic one TV-series, two movies wonder.And lo, truth.
(via It’s OK for intellectual feminists to like fashion - Three Steps to Overcome Sorkin Disappointment - Image source)
